Want To Find Out What Others Think About You? Science Has Got Your Back!


“What do others think about me?” 

One of the most challenging questions of humankind is, without doubt, this question.

"Am I attractive or unattractive?"

1. The truth is your brain is making a serious effort to sort out this question.


But what is the real deal here? Is it possible to understand what others think about us?

2. Behavioral scientist Nicholas Epley’s research area is exploring this concept.


A special technique which was developed from this research is helping people find out what others think about them.

3. The technique is based on the thinking patterns of people. It should be noted that each and every person has an extreme amount of information about themselves.


Our daily contemplations, looks, how we slept last night, what were we doing last year... No one has access to all of this delicate information but ourselves.

4. “We are specialized in ourselves.”


This excessive amount of information on ourselves makes it almost impossible to make objective observations about ourselves.

5. To give an example, when you see an acquaintance after a while, they might easily notice the weight you've gained.


The pieces are starting to come together in your mind, right?

6. To apply this technique, you have to observe yourself as if you were a stranger.


Well, this is not an easy task considering the previously mentioned examples. How is this going to be possible?

7. Through a time gateway! A photograph we saw from yesterday might not mean something to us. However, when months pass after a photograph, we feel alienated from ourselves.


An experiment was conducted with a group of students. These students had their photographs taken and were told that these photos would be rated from 1 to 10 according to their attractiveness level. Before that, students were asked to make a guess about their own scores.

8. There was slight difference between those student groups...


One group was told that their photographs would be evaluated immediately. While the other group was told that their photographs would be evaluated after a couple of months. This was actually a white lie!

9. Things started to get spicy after that!


The students who believed that their photos would be evaluated after a couple of months were making better assumptions than the other student group.

10. When the student groups were asked about the topic of the evaluation, the second group made more well-directed guesses.


What should we understand from this? Our familiarity toward ourselves does not necessarily mean that other people have the same awareness.

11. The intimate information, like your tiredness level or sleep deprivation, does only belong to you.


The others are usually more interested in your general profile rather than the tiny details.

In other words, you can be more comfortable with what others think about you. Because, these people are likely to see you in a perspective similar to you, seeing your own photographs from months ago.

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