Here’s How You Can Be A Much More Attractive Person In 9 Steps!
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People you admire for being charismatic and attractive weren’t all born that way. What’s more, is that they’ve probably never thought that they would ever become as attractive as some Mr. or Ms. X. So here’s your first lesson: Be confident! Bright Side found 9 psychological tricks to attract people around you, and here are those 9 rules you should follow to become much more charismatic and attractive!
1. Individual image.
Even if you don’t need the most original overall look, you definitely need a unique detail which will make strangers remember you. We're not talking about beauty here, uniqueness can be expressed even in ugliness and vulnerability. A pace, gesture, facial expression, intonation, style of communication, or an item of clothing can make you memorable.
2. You need a big dream.
To make people reach for you and appreciate you as a really unique personality, you must have a reason for existence. Ambitions, aims, or a desire to change something in this world. Struggle for something, because a person without a dream is a book without an idea. Why would you read it?
3. Be confident!
To be charismatic, you need to be confident. Courageously make decisions, be able to rely only on yourself, don’t wait for help from the outside, and explain your ideas to others in a way they understand.
People around you can feel your confidence, not only in behavior but also in speech. It’s better to avoid such phrases as 'I guess, I hope, I suppose, I expect, maybe, and probably.'
4. Forget about complaints.
Could you admire and want to be like a person who’s always complaining? Of course not. Charismatic people have a positive mindset. Avoid criticism, complaints, and negative topics. Even if everything is not good in your life, start a conversation that brings you pleasure and will bring the same to your listeners.
5. Use body gestures,
Your behavior should demonstrate your confidence: don’t slouch, don’t fumble with any objects or body parts, try to smile more often, look into your interlocutor’s eyes, and avoid closed postures.
In general, when appearing in public, act and feel like a celebrity on the red carpet.
6. Become a great storyteller.
Many people believe that the ability to make almost every story interesting is a talent.
But it’s not always the case. Mostly it’s a skill that can be learned. Just speak with confidence. Use humor, especially self-irony: the ability to laugh at yourself. Don’t forget about body language, be emotional, and stay positive. Don’t worry if not all of your stories and jokes 'work.'
Tell your personal stories. Having heard something really interesting, people will share it with others.
7. Don’t look away.
When talking to someone always look into their eyes. Sometimes one piercing look can tell more than a thousand words. Eye contact shows that you’re listening to your interlocutor and that you understand and accept them as a person.
Most importantly, when you’re talking to someone at an event, don’t get distracted by extraneous things. Don’t look at your cell phone or at the crowd as it may appear that you are looking for a more 'proper' interlocutor.
8. Learn to listen to others.
There’s no need to consider yourself the world’s most important person. A genuine interest in others’ lives can make people like you more because listening to others is a real art form. If you listen to the other person attentively and show interest in their conversation they start feeling needed and even special.
Of course, you cannot remember everything your interlocutor says to you, but remembering their name is a big deal. Here’s an interesting trick. When a person introduces themselves, repeat their name: “Mike, nice to meet you.“ And if you want people to remember you, use the same trick with your name: ”Hello, I’m Susan. Susan Jones.'
9. Use the mirror effect.
The mirror effect, or simply mirroring, is an easy way to make someone like you by repeating their facial expressions, intonations, and gestures. It always works because the method is based on the nature of human narcissism: an interlocutor unwittingly begins to feel that you’re in sync with them.
You can also use this trick to adopt other people’s unique features. For example, some famous people that seem charismatic to you. Look how they present themselves, as it can help you feel more confident.