Single people are too often stereotyped and stigmatized. They are pitied while married people are celebrated. Yet single life can be tremendously meaningful and fulfilling. It is time for a more accurate, research-based portrayal of single people and single life—one that recognizes the real strengths and resilience of people who are single, and what makes their lives so meaningful.
Here are 14 reasons why they prefer to be alone:
1. There are more single Americans aged 16 and older than there are married Americans.
2. Single life is the better part of our adult lives:
3. People who are “single at heart” embrace single life. Living single is how they live their best, most authentic, most meaningful lives.
4. Claims that getting married makes people happier, healthier, and more integrated into society are grossly exaggerated or just plain wrong.
5. People who get married do not end up any healthier or less depressed than when they were single, nor do they enjoy any higher self-esteem.
6. People who marry become more insular. They were more connected to parents and friends when they were single.
7. When studies seem to show that getting married is beneficial, the explanation may be singlism and matrimania (as well as biased analyses) rather than any social support or social monitoring that goes on within a marriage.
8. Social scientists overwhelmingly study marriage and married people.
9. Singles savor their solitude and its profound rewards.
10. Singles embrace bigger, broader meanings of relationships and love.
11. Singles develop a diversified portfolio of skills.
12. Singles contribute in meaningful ways.
13. Singles value opportunities to pursue their interests and passions and do the work they care about the most.
14. Lifelong single people experience more personal growth and development than people who stay married.