Don't forget, when you reach the bottom and you can't go any deeper you will start climbing back up and resurface. First the words 'time heals' won't make any sense and you will be annoyed by those who tell you that. But it's true, you really do heal, so here is your guide to the steps, one by one. You can be at any point of this journey or you may be living it in a different order, but whichever step you're at, we're sure that you will relate, because this is the natural process that we all go in this kind of grief.
First you can't believe it. Your brain overheats from repeating the question; "How???"... "How come?!"
"Were you thinking of him/her all this time?"
Since you were tricked and lied to, you do your own research and connect the dots to find out the real truth.
You try to continue with life but frequently feel the physical pain as if your heart is being squeezed, or sudden stabs, at various times of day. You start crying.
As you cry and get crushed with the weight of betrayal, you also want him/her to hug you and heal the wounds s/he created.
You miss them and because you miss them despite their betrayal you get angry to yourself.
After a while you calm down and move to the next step: Stalking them! Both of them >:(
The fact that you were cheated on doesn't leave your mind at a single moment; whether it's at work, traffic, or school.
Out of habit you check your phone all the time to see if s/he texted you. Especially in the morning, to see that "Good morning" text.
For a long while, you can't even stand the thought of seeing or talking to your mutual friends.
You can't socialize at all other than your closest friends, and you don't want to answer phones.
You can't stop secretly hoping that s/he came to your door and left without knocking, or that you'll run into each other somewhere.
You either surrender to binge eating and drinking, or you completely lose your appetite.
This "unfortunate" event makes the world too small to bear.
You start hating, or maybe hate and love in the same time, without your control.
You produce scenarios and play them in your head.
Depending on your character/mood, you post songs that send him/her a message, or share fake photos that tell the world how happy you are, or avoid social media completely, since you can't bear it anymore.
Even your best friends can understand you up to a certain point, and everyone tells you that life goes on, there are much worse going on in the world and that you should feel grateful, or that you will have worse worries in life.
You may even consider forgiving them and getting back together because "You can't live without him/her!"
After a while, you get exhausted from the pain and sadness.
You slowly start to encourage yourself.
If you've been blaming yourself about being cheated on, and searching for your faults, remember that you have nothing to do with this situation.
You start forgiving yourself for the extra-depressive thoughts you had during the first stages.
Then you start trying to forgive them.
People see you lightened up a little, and immediately jump on you.
There may even be those opportunists who try to console you and eventually get with you due to your vulnerable situation.
And you also learned that "loyalty" is very important for you.
Of course, everyone is different. But a relationship that starts with a clear head and a healed heart is always the most healthy.
Right afterwards come the acceptance period.
"Yeah we have that memory here. But I have a memory here with tons of other friends too, what, I don't have to ditch a cafe of which I'm a regular"
And now, the healing period have begun.
And now is the time to really give attention to yourself.
If you think about it; you can only rule your own world and can't change what goes on in the outer world.
If you are still in the first steps, this won't sound legit or believable to you at all but hear me out; you just need to give it time.
That doesn't kill you makes you stronger is very kitch and cliche for this article, but you are cordially invited to learn your lessons from the experience :)